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5 April 2018 • Anastasiya Dusanska
Dealing with competition
An information session about a traineeship offered by the municipality of The Hague provided me with great insights on my future career and a great amount of anxiety. There I was, sitting in a class room full of people who were all equally qualified and ambitious as me. How do I compete with them? More importantly, how do I stay sane and confident of my own abilities when it seems that everyone around me has a more impressive resume than me? The answer is actually quite simple.
The thing that reassured me about my capabilities happened directly after the meeting. I started talking to a former classmate and expressed my feelings of anxiety to her. I opened up about feeling tense when coming to such events, after which she agreed with me and confessed to feeling the exact same way. There it was, the feeling of recognition. It blew all of my anxiety away. I realized, everyone is experiencing this fear of not being good enough. So, what can you do about it?
Stop comparing yourself to others. Even though it is a work in progress, eventually it will pay rich rewards. Next time you are tempted to think that your peers are better than you, try consulting the report of CSO (Central Statistical Office) about job opportunities. It states that the employment in the Netherlands is on the rise. In the preceding year it increased by 1,8 percent. That is a considerable growth of 144 thousand of jobs. Surely there is one suitable just for you.
Also, whenever you are dealing with such feelings of insecurity: share them. Not only will you feel better after getting it off your chest, but you will also realize that you are not the only one dealing with these issues. Reassurance is often found in recognition. May you find these tips ineffective, I have one last tip on dealing with competition for you. Fake it till you make it and the rest will follow.
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Anastasiya studies European Studies. In her spare time you can meet her at a Zumba or Krav Maga class. In her blogs she likes to share her experiences about studying and how you can get the best out of it.